Are You the Problem in Your Relationship? A Couples Therapist Explains
Most people believe their partner is the problem. But what if you’re contributing more to your relationship struggles than you realise? Learn how self-awareness, accountability and healthier communication can transform your relationship.
“My Partner Is Always Criticising Me” — What’s Really Going On?
“My Partner Is Always Criticising Me” — What’s Really Going On? Why constant criticism damages relationships, what it’s really trying to communicate, and how couples can break the cycle. “Nothing I Do Is Ever Good Enough” It’s one of the most painful things I hear in couples therapy. You try. You make an effort. You […]
We Argue When We’re Emotionally Flooded: Why It Happens and What To Do About It
“I don’t know what happened. We were talking about something small, and suddenly we were in a huge fight.” If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you’ve probably had this experience. The conversation starts innocently enough. Maybe you’re discussing money, parenting, chores, sex, or whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher. Then something shifts.Voices […]
We Don’t Have Sex Anymore — And What To Do About It
Let’s not sugarcoat this: when sex disappears from a relationship, it rarely goes quietly. It leaves behind tension. Silence. Stories. You start telling yourself things like, “We’ve become roommates,” or worse, “Maybe they just don’t want me.” And here’s the part most couples don’t say out loud — it’s not just about sex. It’s about […]
Why Couples Get Stuck in the Same Fight — and How to Break the Cycle
Let me tell you something that may surprise you: most couples are not fighting about what they think they’re fighting about. It’s not really about the dishes. It’s not really about sex. It’s not really about money, parenting, or who forgot to text back. Those are the headlines. Underneath the headlines is almost always the […]
Defensiveness: The Fastest Way to Kill Intimacy
Let me be blunt: Defensiveness is relationship kryptonite. It is one of the fastest, most reliable ways to destroy intimacy, erode trust, and leave both people feeling profoundly alone. Because here’s what defensiveness says to your partner: “Your pain is less important than my discomfort hearing about it.” Ouch. That lands hard. And most defensive […]
Why Do Couples Fight All the Time? 7 Real Reasons + Fixes
Discover why couples fight all the time and how to stop it. Learn the real causes of relationship arguments and practical ways to fix them.